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The Journey to Self-Acceptance and Advocacy: What to do when your child is trans.

Hey there, your fave assistant Helen here. Let's talk about Dr. Lulu's incredible journey from Season 14, episode 12 of The Queer Family Podcast. Can you believe we are wrapping up season 14, y'all?? Sheesh, time really does fly. I'm releasing this a couple days ahead of the episode to give you a teaser of the amazing convo you're in store for.

Born and raised in Nigeria, Dr. Lulu faced deep-rooted homophobia and religious conservatism, which led to a profound internal struggle with her queer identity. Growing up in a Catholic household, she was taught to despise herself and believed that being gay would condemn her to hell. When her child displayed signs of femininity, Dr. Lulu found herself bargaining with God, fervently hoping that her child wouldn't be gay. She was overwhelmed by her fears and failed to prioritize her child's well-being.

Dr. Lulu openly shares her personal journey of self-discovery and acceptance as a queer individual. She emphasizes that sexual orientation and gender identity are inherent aspects of a person's being, not choices. Reflecting on her own experiences of internalized homophobia, she discusses the harm it caused in her relationship with her child.

Dr. Lulu highlights the significance of vulnerability and self-awareness in the journey towards self-acceptance and advocacy. She even gives Jaimie a little much needed coaching session (don't tell her I said that), encouraging Jaimie to delve deeper into her emotions and visceral reaction to learning she was having a boy.

Dr. Lulu's journey has led her to become a fierce advocate for LGBTQIA+ youth and her transgender child. She has established a gender affirming family coaching practice where she works with parents and families to navigate the process of gender affirmation. Dr. Lulu recognizes that when one child transitions, the entire family undergoes a transformation and aims to support families in understanding and embracing their children's true identities.

The impact of societal and cultural norms on the LGBTQIA+ community, particularly in Nigeria, is a significant theme in the conversation. Dr. Lulu acknowledges the high rates of suicide among African American children due to rejection and lack of acceptance, urging parents to unlearn their biases and prioritize their children's well-being over societal expectations. Her work as a pediatrician and speaker is dedicated to educating and supporting parents in creating a more inclusive and accepting world.

In conclusion, Dr. Lulu's story is a powerful testament to the transformative power of self-reflection and acceptance. She encourages parents to question societal norms and biases, prioritizing their children's happiness and well-being above all else. By embracing vulnerability and unlearning harmful ideologies, parents can create a more inclusive and accepting environment for their LGBTQIA+ children. Dr. Lulu's journey serves as a reminder that love is love, and that every individual deserves to be seen and accepted for who they truly are.

If you want to learn more about Dr. Lulu and her work, visit her website at You can also follow her on Instagram at @drlulutalkradio and subscribe to her YouTube channel @drlulutalkradio for insightful discussions and resources.

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